The Shamed Child - 9 Criticisms Parents Must Avoid

 

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DISCOURAGED CHILDREN FEEL PAIN

A parent can become a critical judge when he feels tired, cranky, and frustrated. If a child hears the thunder of criticism often enough, he'll begin to believe that's who he is.

When he believes the words, he may even act on them, thinking, "If you say I'm bad, I'll show you how bad I can be."

The problem with criticism is it rarely helps a child become better. It often increases a child's bitterness, anger, and sadness. Ask yourself, "Do I like criticism?" If you said, "Yes," you are rare. But if you said "No," consider how children feel when criticized.

 

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Angry Criticism Isn't Helpful

 

In today's parenting gift you'll find 9 examples of the worst things to tell our children.  They can become a child's inner self-talk when an angry parent repeats them enough. Perhaps they were said to you when you were a child.

I suggest you download them and add them to a notebook to review when you're upset and tempted to yell at your child.

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Parenting Tip: How Happy Families Encourage Children

 

 

 

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HONEST FAMILY COMPLIMENTS RAISE SELF-ESTEEM

If your family spirit needs a boost, and you're not sure what to do, consider this article with its 30 positive parenting tips.

Parents are powerful because their words can increase their child's confidence or tear it down. When their angry words are repeated, children remember. To the child, "Get out of my sight" becomes "I'm not lovable."

Repeated put-downs become the 'Critical Judge' living inside the child's head and they can last a lifetime. Negative self-talk has the power to limit a person's effectiveness.

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Harsh Words Can Become An Internal 'Critical Judge'

Positive words also have a ripple effect. Catching children being good boosts their self-esteem and steers them toward becoming kind and caring people.

In today's article, you'll find:

  • 9 of the worst things to tell your children
  • 12 character traits with an activity for bonding family members
  • 9 positive strengths to notice in children
  • 9 examples of compliments to share within your family

Children who internalize honest specific praise see themselves as good people who care about their family and other people too.

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Honest Praise Helps Kids See Themselves As Good People

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Caring Families: How Parents Build Self-Esteem

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How Parents Raise Loving Families - 7 Tips + Video

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FIND OUT THE EASY WAY TO RAISE A CARING FAMILY!


Sincere words, a smiling voice, and eye contact are 3 ingredients you can easily use to create caring in your child.

Your words, whether harsh or loving, will be replayed over and over throughout his life. Your harsh words can become the critical judge he'll hear in his head when he does his homework, looks for a job, or raises kids of his own. 

If your words are kind and encouraging, they'll become his inner "Head Coach" and give him the confidence and courage to live a happier more productive and caring life.

But what if she's sassing, demanding, or lying? Clearly this is not the time for coddling and kind words. It could be the time to hold your tongue and not give in to the sass and demands. It's not easy.  IT CAN BE DONE!

How Changing Words Changes Family Life

Here’s a brief video with 7 family compliments that include honest words, a kind voice, and specific comments you can use. You’ll also find out how a tiny box, a family dinner, and noticing behaviors can help you raise a caring family.

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The Takers: Poem for Kids with Family Discussion

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IS YOUR DISRESPECTFUL CHILD A "TAKER?"


If your child appears conceited and arrogant and you are worried about his future, you have good reason to be concerned. Who will treat him with respect when he is disrespectful? Who will love him in spite of his selfishness? Who will work with him if he doesn't listen?

Spoiled kids act as if they are the "King of the Universe." They expect things to go their way. They get what they want because they demand it. They aren't givers. They are takers.

If you are raising takers, read and discuss today's parenting gift with your children. It's a poem entitled 'The Takers.'  You'll find 8 questions to discuss with them. 

Notice that Michael's mother, in the poem, doesn't enforce rules. Is that why she's doing his work for him? Zoe's dad couldn't stand her tantrums in toy stores so he gave in. Is that why she screams to get what she wants? Ask your kids the questions and listen to their opinions. You may be surprised at their wisdom.

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YOU CAN STOP TEMPER TANTRUMS!

 

Even if your children are givers enjoy the poem and the family discussion. It will be fun to hear how they think.

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“Unspoiling” Your Child –10 Practical Parenting Tips

 

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TAKE A STAND AGAINST DISRESPECT!

If your children treat you like a doormat, chances are you’re a loving parent who gives too much and expects too little. You CAN take a stand!

Today's parenting suggestions may be difficult because your child won’t like them. He isn’t supposed to like them. Use them only if you’ll be consistent because if you don’t follow through you’ll look weaker than ever. If you are consistent, eventually you’ll get the respect you deserve. It will take time.

The first parenting suggestion, “Be determined to change!” is important. Without determination things won’t change. Being the parent means being a strong leader, guide, and coach.

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DON'T ACCEPT VERBAL ABUSE! WALK AWAY!


There’s a time to show love and there’s a time to be in charge. Saying "No" and then giving in shows weakness not love. To become a blend of kindness and firmness works best. And when kids are already spoiled, be firm.

You’ll find 10 top parenting solutions for becoming firm. Take a deep breath. Follow the suggestions, and help your child become a respectful caring person.

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How Self-Centered Kids Become Caring Children

 

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CARING KIDS LIKE TO HELP!


 Spoiled kids want service. They think they’re the boss. They demand what they want and often get it. If you’re raising a selfish child, keep reading. You’ll find ways to handle your youngster without being a servant.

How Over-Indulged Kids Talk

Responses like, “Do it yourself!” can fill a parent with rage. It’s hard to hold one’s tongue or know how to respond without yelling or arguing. This article lists the sass that pampered children spout. If your child uses similar words, you’re raising an entitled kid. You'll find 10 solutions you can start using today.

How to Help Self-Centered Kids

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BEING THE PARENT WORKS!

 

Did your love for your child focus on making her happy? Did you give too much and not expect much in return. Perhaps your daughter became the queen of the household. For her to change, you’ll have to be the parent. You’ll have to take charge and this article will show you exactly what to do.

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Pick out the behaviors you need the most. Then work on them by being kind and firm, consistent and stable.

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Verbal Abuse from Spoiled Children - Checklist and Video

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ACCEPTING DISRESPECT HURTS EVERYONE

The words your children yell at you reflect how they think and feel about you. If those words are selfish, mean, or hurtful, you've got work to do. Why you? Before your children can change you need to change. I know it's hard to hear. But ask yourself 3 questions about:

Disrespectful Children

How did the disrespect start?

How did I respond?

Why is it continuing?

You can learn a lot of important information by answering those 3 questions.

You work hard all day and come home to even more work - dinner, dishes, laundry, lunches, and homework. You're tired and ask your kids for help. "Don't tell me what to do!" is yelled back at you.

Your tiredness makes you cranky and you yell back. If you end up  feeling like a parenting failure or guilty about the things you say, it's time to change.

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You CAN Change Your Behavior, Their Sass, and Feel Guilt-Free

Today's FREE Parenting Gift is a checklist of 10 verbally abusive things you might hear from your children. If you hear any of them or similar words, watch the parenting video below the checklist. It can help you stop the verbal abuse from your children by making the behavior changes you need.

To pick up Are Your Kids Spoiled? A Parenting Behavior Checklist:

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Stop Spoiling Your Kids - 6 Parenting Tips Video

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Over-indulging Kids Turns Them into Weak Characters.


When parents give too much and expect too little, they raise spoiled children. Their parenting love is out of control. They make themselves into doormats and their offspring selfish and weak.

7 Problems with Entitled Kids

  1. They think they're the boss.
  2. They can be rude.
  3. They're never satisfied.
  4. They verbally attack parents.
  5. They whine when they don't get their way.
  6. They want more.
  7. They aren't grateful.

5 Ways Parents of Pampered Kids Feel

  1. They feel like doormats - walked on.
  2. They explode with anger.
  3. They experience guilt when their kids act badly.
  4. They whine and sound weak.
  5. They confuse giving-in with love.

Today's Brief YouTube Video Shares 6 Ways to Stop Indulging Kids

It takes courage and determination to be a consistent parent. Why? Because youngsters will try hard to stop their parents from changing. It won't be pretty. But the improvement in their child's attitude and behavior will be worth the parenting effort. One more thing, Parents will take their true role as leaders and trainers and their children will feel more secure.

Please watch The Spoiled Child - 6 Practical Parenting Solutions

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A Child's Divorce Poem for Parents

 

 

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A Child's Real Feelings about Divorce

 

When a parent who's separating or getting divorced leaves the home, a child is filled with questions he may not know how to ask.

A Child's Questions about Divorce

  1. What will happen to me?
  2. Is the divorce my fault?
  3. When will I see my other parent?
  4. Will my parents marry someone else?
  5. Will my other parent forget about me?
  6. Do I have to take sides?
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I'm Half of Mom


What Children of Divorce Really Want:

  • Their parents to stay married
  • Their parents to stop fighting and get along
  • Their parents to keep visits
  • Their parents to allow them to love both parents
  • Their parents to avoid bad-mouthing each other
  • Their parents to keep them out of the middle
  • To feel safe, secure, and loved

Our parenting gift today is a poem that looks at divorce through the eyes of a child. It is a reminder for parents of what they can do to help their children deal with the loss of their original  family.

Along with the poem is a checklist of 7 helpful questions.

Download A Child's Poem  "Don't Forget Me," by inserting the code word:

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Consider saving it to a binder to refer to whenever you need it.

 

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How Do Divorced Parents Love Their Children?

 

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Children of Divorce Need Their Parents

Divorce crushes children when busy parents lose contact.  They wonder, "Did I cause my parents' divorce?" Their guilt can sink them into depression because they don't understand that the conflict is between their parents and not them. So how can loving parents continue to show they care?

Today our parenting gift includes 15 ways divorced parents can show love. They can lift your children up from the despair of divorce and keep you connected.

  • Number 1 tells what your child thinks when you talk against your ex.
  • Number 5 shares what to do when you need to make schedule changes.
  • Number 8 gives important advice about a parent's new boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • Number 12 suggests what to do about gifts for your child.
  • Number 15 states what to say often to help your child. Maybe you can already guess.

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