Effective Child Discipline – 3 Ways to Express “Parenting Feelings” without Anger

 

 

Parenting Tips by Jean Tracy, MSS, for grades K-6:

Effective Child Discipline:

When disciplining your child do you ever feel out of control? Do you feel like you're in a runaway car and can't stop? Do you hear yourself saying things you know you'll regret? Inside you'll find some parenting advice for getting your feelings under control before you discipline.

Today's Agenda for Building Character in Kids:

• In our last post we discussed a quote from Dorothy Parker.
• We also shared how to practice the "parenting sounds."
• In this post, we'll look at a quote from Maggie Scarf.
• We'll also share some tips on how to discipline with effective "parenting feelings."

Parenting Quote:

"Getting angry can sometimes be like leaping into a wonderful responsive sports car, gunning the motor, taking off at high speed and then discovering the brakes are out of order." – Maggie Scarf

Let's face it, most of us have been "too mad" at our kids. Like the straw that broke the camel's back, sometimes the littlest problem explodes in our minds. Then we say and do things we regret.

Maggie Scarf's quote adds another element. When your child sasses, hits her little sister, or walks his muddy boots on your freshly scrubbed floor, it's easy to feel like a "wonderful responsive sports car." As we gun our angry motors, it feels so good. When our anger gains too much momentum, a little voice inside of us says, "Oh! Oh! This is too much." At this point it's tough to slow down because our "brakes are out of order."

3 Parenting Tips - How to Discipline with Effective "Parenting Feelings:"

When you're tempted to yell, "You never listen! How can you be so stupid! When will you ever learn?"

Consider the following:

• Mentally zip your lip. This will buy you time to get into the "parenting zone."
• Tell your child to wait for you.
• Go to another room and spend some time deciding on how to proceed. Come out when you feel you can be fair and reasonable.

You're goal is to take your foot off the gas. Get in a reasonable state of mind and think effectively. If you do, you won't be saying regretful things. You'll be teaching your child a great way to deal with anger. You'll be building character too.

In our next post, we'll discuss effective parenting actions for disciplining kids.

Please add you own tips for creating good "parenting feelings" when disciplining your kids. We'd love to hear them.

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